Have you ever suffered from uncontrollable over-thinking? Have you ever burned yourself with stress that was caused by simply obsessing over a thought? Would your life be much more fun if you could spend your thinking energy and time on constructive introspection instead of obsessing over negative thoughts? Do you know a concrete law to help yourself … Continue reading Is over thinking killing you? Solution is Cognitive Bandwidth
Everybody says that I am an egomaniac. They are right but only partially. People don't know what makes everyone egoistic. We are all egoistic and that's a good thing for us. I do not think that children are born egomaniacs. There are certain external circumstances that make them develop ego in them, the people or … Continue reading Why having ego is good?
The silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse. It is when a person in the relationship ignores the other or refuses to acknowledge them verbally or through any other method. The person giving the silent treatmentusually has narcissistic tendencies.
No matter how hungry the tiger is, it will not eat grass - Tamil Proverb Reflection Dignity. That’s what this is called. That set of values that are non-negotiable. The rules we will never break, even when angry, anxious, or in pain. The line we will never cross, even in the worst moments of need. … Continue reading Dignity is of prime importance
Everyday we progress through life facing various uncertainties. Due to this uncertainties and we not being GOD, we make mistakes. These mistakes build subconscious addictions and guilt in us. As we have many distractions all the time and very less mindfulness these subtle guilts & addictions go unattended. Later they have negative *compounded* effect on the quality of our life. These under the radar, unnoticed guilt, addictions and negativity is something that we need to pay attention to. Here is a small article that discusses this topic in detail. https://successweapon.wordpress.com/2017/08/26/subtle-addictions-guilt/ And get listed on *Life Optimisation Digest* Membership to receive such articles in your mailbox directly Aman V. Varma Psychologist
I ignored the fact that our body is also mind. I realized that without a healthy body the mind cannot be healthy. And when I look at all the 20 things that are making me feel like shit, I've noticed that their roots somehow point towards the physical body & health. Now I know that the health of the body can be the greatest barrier in developing a super conscious mind & intellect.
Alison Wood Brooks is a researcher at Harvard Business School. She studies the most effective strategy for dealing with acute stress.
First, a little test: Imagine that you need to give a big presentation in front of a bunch of people. Your heart’s been pounding for days at the mere thought of this talk. Palms are sweaty. All that. What should you tell yourself? Should you try to calm down or should you try to feel excited?
what to choose over which, then always go for what seems right with rational or logical thinking. I found this advice in the book Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, which was out of my consciousness until now. You see, the things I already know but had forgotten came up in my dream.
So why do you choose which is right based on rational thinking and not emotional thinking (feelings) ?
Journalling is a great way to empty your mind, attend your inner voice, contemplate on issues and conflicts, derive solutions to them, get inspired again, feel relaxed and reflect on your life that will nourish your soul. continue reading...
The hedonic treadmill, also known as hedonic adaptation, is the observed tendency of humans to quickly return to a relatively stable level of happiness despite major positive or negative events or life changes. Click here to watch the video
Hey my name is Aman V. Varma My vision is to inspire 100 million people to become the greatest version of themselves through my "Life Optimization Academy" I am a visionary, psychologist, speaker, youtuber and writer currently living in India. All I do everyday is Read, Research, Experiment and Share wisdom that can help me … Continue reading Start Here – About Me | Vision & Mission
Your prerogative to express anger is stolen, making you miserable. The below things are not good for you: Being thirsty, hungry, altruist, energetic, empathetic,etc. Basically all the good emotions that come in from A to Z are bad for you. Continue reading..
Why the rich get richer and poor get poorer?
To answer this question, Psychologist Robert Rosenthal Conducted a classroom study in the year 1970.
The results he came up with were astonishing!
Craftsmanship: Traits of extraordinary craftsman in mankind's history. What made Da Vinci, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet and all the other great men, soo exceptional? I give you the 12 specific traits of these people which can be developed by you as well. That's Badass.
Love is good. But can it be evil? I bet ya, it can be. What if people can take you for granted by manipulating you with the universe's most wonderful emotion - love? If love is used for bonding & creating, it can be used for destruction and self service as well. Love can make … Continue reading Love Bombing – Manipulation Weapon
The people I found to be physically beautiful/handsome and attractive, I would naturally associated all the good qualities like charm, skills, capabilities, leadership, friendliness, intelligence, funny, etc to them even if they didn't actually posses it.
This is more common than we think when seen in our daily lives. People ask something and we respond something else which leaves the communication highly ineffective. And if both the people communicating don't have good Emotional Intelligence, it is not very astonishing to find them in continuous arguments and disregarding.
Everyday that man would go from shop to shop to gather some money. That's what all beggars do. But he is different. His clothes are filthy, torn and disgusting but that man always "tucks in" in his shirt and wears "a belt" to support his pant.
There are many factors that together decide the quality and success of a married or any other kind of relationships. Relationships is what I study the most because I have had some unpleasant experiences with it.
Your mind is designed to "solve problems" That is it. 24x7x365 your mind is scanning the environment to find problems that can be solved, it just cannot help it. This nature of a our mind has generated unbelievable things like phone, internet, houses, roads, clothes, books, systems, laws, language, etc. Everything around you is a … Continue reading Do you really have problems? your mind is fooling you!
This nature of a our mind has generated unbelievable things like phone, internet, houses, roads, clothes, books, systems, laws, language, etc. Everything around you is a solution to a problem. It will think that your relationships aren't up to the mark, it will think that you ain't worth enough and all sorts of emotional conflicts (problems) will come up just because you cannot sit idle, your brain has to come up with a problem so that it can solve it. That's a natural function of our brain. So, if there is an inward problem in your life, simply ask yourself if your mind has created it or is it something really present externally. There is nothing wrong with you most of the time, you stay in your head and create massive problems for yourself because you can't find problems outside in the world to solve!
Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you're living? If yes, you'll die soon because you won't do anything to push yourself & grow. When you don't grow guess what happens? You die! SO EXPAND YOUR VISION & KEEP MAKING YOURSELF AND THE DIFFERENT AREAS OF YOUR LIFE BETTER. AIM TO GET HEALTHIER/ EARN MORE MONEY/ IMPROVE ROMANCE/ SOCIALIZE BETTER.. I hope you get it... (the motivation!)
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1. “God gave you them shoes to fit you, so put them on and wear them. Be yourself man, be proud of who you are. Even if it sounds corny, don’t let no one tell you, you ain’t beautiful.” – Eminem 2. “The truth is you don’t know what is going to happen tomorrow. Life is a crazy ride, and nothing is guaranteed.” – Eminem
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Modern psychology and common sense will tell you that boys and girls need to be educated together as equals and that coed schools are important because they teach boys and girls how to get along with each other. Schools segregated by sex have many disadvantages, and people need to be aware of them.
Grant Cardone has four thousand sources of income, making over millions of dollars a year! And not forgetting to mention, he started from the scratch. Travelling in private jets all around the world, staying in different cities every other day, having vacations of 3 months 4 times a year!
Within 10 days you will be regarded as a god by those very people who now see you as a beast or baboon - if you return to your principles & the worship of reason. The removal of the unnecessary should apply not only to actions but to thoughts also: then no redundant actions either will follow.
For years she tried to be the perfect wife. A perfect mother. But now, divorced with 2 sons, having gone through another breakup and in despair about her future… she felt as if she failed all.
The deep life, of course, is not for everybody. It requires hard work and drastic changes to your habits. For many, there’s a comfort in the artificial busyness of rapid e-mail messaging and social media posturing, while the deep life demands that you leave much of that behind.
In Book I Aurelius thanks those to whom he is indebted. He thanks his grandfather for teaching him to be candid, modest, and even-tempered; his father for teaching him to be humble, calm, and frugal; his mother for teaching him to be generous and non-materialistic; and his teachers who taught him the value of hard work, self-discipline, equanimity, rationality, humor, and tolerance. From his teachers he also learned to love practical philosophy, instead of metaphysics, logic and the vanity of the Sophists. He also thanks his wife for being affectionate.
What did Leonardo Da Vinci know that everyone else forgot? Da Vinci wrote, "I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do." What he's saying is a creed of the most successful guys! Knowledge is not enough. We must take action. We … Continue reading Da Vinci’s #1 UNIVERSAL SECRET
Vernon Howard’s Mystic Path to CosmicPower deals with spiritual and psychological truths in simple terms. The following secrets to meaningful relationships are an excerpt from the very same book.
Not taking action, due to fear of failure, is itself a great risk - and often a costly one. Every moment that passes we are one breath closer to the end of our life. Time does not stop; the yesterday doesn’t come back, and missed opportunities may not return - or at least not under the same terms.
Subjective validation, sometimes called personal validation effect, is a cognitive bias by which a person will consider a statement or another piece of information to be correct if it has any personal meaning
Are you listening to your heart? Everyone faces challenges whether it’s in school, work, or their personal lives but it’s your heart that has the answers. Yes, some push those answers away in the hopes of fantastical outcomes, but those rarely become a reality.
A few years earlier, in 1973, John Lee had identified six love styles. 1. Agape Agape refers to altruistic, selfless love. Agapic lovers like to give more than to receive. They are forgiving, patient, faithful, and are willing to make sacrifices for their partner. This type of love is very rare and is most likely to be experienced as a parent
Persuasion is a rational or emotional appeal to influence someone to adopt a certain idea, behaviour or attitude.
We are most likely to attribute a certain behavior of others as their internal personality trait (mostly negative) and often underestimate the influence that external factors, such as situational influences, have on another person's behavior. And when the finger is pointing at us, we attribute the same behavior at the external event unconsciously for the sole purpose of protecting our self esteem. This is the fundamental error that we make when trying to ascribe a meaning to someone's behavior or a cause of an event.
Simply, a person who engages in serious self-education, studying subjects deeply on his/her own time, in his/her own way.
Social psychology is the scientific study of how people's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are influenced by the actual, imagined, or implied presence of others. In this definition, scientific refers to the empirical method of investigation.
Ancient Philosophers resembling the "stoic" community made use of the technique known as "contemplation of your own death" to live a worthy life. They used to cultivate the habit of thinking that they are dead already and the day they are living today is the bonus they received from god.
But here is the thing, these impacts are positive as well as negative. It totally depends upon the degree of it's execution and your perspective. That's why sometimes they are beneficial other times they may backfire!
I have realised that when the time's destined, people will come into your life & when the time's over, people leave. The person who loves you today may not love you 3 months from now, because the time's over. Everything will come, stay and leave when it's time. Everything comes, stays and leaves to teach us something, to make us grow.
It is man's duty to live in conformity with the divine will, and this means, firstly, bringing his life into line with 'nature's laws', and secondly, resigning himself completely and uncomplainingly to whatever fate may send him. Only by living thus, and not setting too high a value on things which can at any moment be taken away from him, can he discover that true, unshakeable peace and contentment to which ambition, luxury and above all avarice are among the greatest obstacles. - Seneca
If yes, good. This will instantly sky rocket the set point of your spirit + emotional health + happiness. Generally speaking, it will Optimze your good emotions right away.
We like to miss the way someone made us feel rather than the way he or she acted and treated us. We remember the way people affected us and not the people themselves.
When we miss someone, we don't miss the actual person but the feelings that person gave us in past. We miss the way we felt and the people we became when we were with him or her.
If your "better-half".. Oops! Let me correct.. The word 'better-half' is stupidity, the person who coined this word, Mr. Horace a roman poet must be a complete fantasy idiot & should be given a 100 & half slashes for such a terrible mistake 😜 - he didn't understand the song of love birds, he must be choked … Continue reading Stupid relationship myth
Hate & love the same person? Confused a little? Disturbed a little? Mixed feelings for the same person? Not anymore. I've struggled with this, finally cracked this psycho-emotional mingle. Let me tell you if you think you hate & love the same person, then that is not true. It's not the case. The fact is that … Continue reading Hate and love the same person?
You've been planning to visit Taj Mahal from 1 year but still didn't execute the plan! Why? Because there is no sense of urgency here. Right? But what if the Taj Mahal is going to be demolished in 1 week, this is the last week for entire humanity to see the monument, after that no … Continue reading Generate massive revenue
As a man thinketh Select quotes: "They who have no central purpose in their life fall an easy prey to petty worries, fears, troubles, and self-pityings...which lead to failure, unhappiness, and loss, for weakness cannot persist in the power-evolving universe." "To put away aimlessness and weakness and to begin to think with purpose is to … Continue reading As a man thinkeththinketh
The outer conditions of a person's life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state. This does not mean that a man's circumstances at any giving time are an indication of his entire character, but that those circumstances are so intimately connected with some vital thought-element within himself that, for the time being, they are indispensable to his development.
Learning every moment is difficult. Watching funny videos for hours is easy. And that is why majority of people live a funny life and make a cartoon of themselves and afterwards complain why god doesn't support them to get their desired life manifested.
VIP NEWSLETTER # 19 Independency is power. To say it in one line, stand on your own feet and stand high. The moment you become dependent upon someone else for your living & survival is the moment you lose self respect and power. Be independent. Be free. Become successful. Become legendary so that you have … Continue reading Independency is power.
How big we think determines the size of our accomplishments. The greates human weakness is self-deprecation. Big thinkers are specialists in creating positive, forward-looking, optimistic pictures in thier own minds and in the minds of others. To think big we must use words and phrases that produce big, positive mental images because we don't think … Continue reading It pays to think big
Piers Steele is a leading research scientist. After analyzing hundreds of studies on motivation, he came up with a little equation to capture the essence of motivation. It’s a little abstract on first blush but worth internalizing and using as one of our tools. I recommend keeping this ready at hand and using it often … Continue reading Motivation = Expectancy times Value divided by Impulsivity times Delay.
VIP NEWSLETTER #26 People change with time. If they don't then they are abnormal. But, unfortunately growth is not always positive as I've realised recently. Below is a scribbled page of my journal. Avoid the second category of people like garbage, they are having negative effects on your life. Avoid them or help them. If … Continue reading Plaque People, Avoid them!
As a man thinketh: Thought & Character "A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all of his thoughts." And since cause and effect are as absolute and undeviating in the hidden realm of thought as in the world of visible and material things, we determine (or at least … Continue reading Thought and character
“Attribution theory deals with how the social perceiver uses information to arrive at causal explanations for events. It examines what information is gathered and how it is combined to form a causal judgment”
Living your life on your terms. Doing what you want. Saying what you want. Being who ever you want to be. Without caring of external influences is simple life.
I value your time. I value my time. And so I keep everything as short as possible & try to hit the nail straight. In short, I keep precise. So, contemplate a little on whatever you read. WHY AM I SO INSPIRED WITH LIFE? Well, because I have a STRONG & DOMINANT DESIRE built up inside me … Continue reading How to be inspired with life?
Today, A VIP Member ask me a question as below, "Could you tell me how to stick on your dreams and how to choose the right career if you have more than 2 options in front of you" So here is the answer for that.. A profound guide. Click the above image to watch the … Continue reading How to Choose the Right Career
Yo! Aman Varma here, it's good to see you today here with me. I am gonna introduce you to my 3 step process that will help you to reset your mental state to default setting a.k.a allowing yourself to be happy all the time. Let's begin.. 1. Physiology Your physiology affects your psychology. See how you … Continue reading 3 steps to happiness
It's hard. It's painful. It's not easy. I am telling you the truth, I don't hold any interest to delude you by saying it's easy nor am I trying to demotivate you. I respect the truth. If it was easy everyone would have been doing it. The fact is that it will become so hard that … Continue reading Trust Yourself Again
3 keys that ensure your normal state of living everyday life will be happy, like a child. 3 part program. 4 mins each part.
The 48 Laws of Power Summary is a post about a book with the same name, written by author Robert Green who dedicated a lot of time on research to deliver an astonishing piece of art that is going to stand the test of time.
Any thoughts held constantly in mind the mind, or any thought dwelt upon through concentration and brought into consious mind, often attracts to it those qualities of the human mind that it resembles the most. Such thoughts must sooner or later seek release through physical action.
Most high achievers will comment that a morning routine was and continues to be their biggest secret to achieving. I've personally been doubling down and finding my perfect routine.
Never show people that you are upset, for it makes you appear weak. Social Justice Warriors take notice!
I found that they had a muscle in their brain, which they had trained and developed at lot. This muscle was the reason why they achieved such great results.
Are your wasting your precious time in watching useless TV, playing video games, gossiping and doing shit that isn't helping you in anyway to make your dream life come true?
Belief works this way. Belief, the "I CAN" attitude generates the POWER, SKILL AND ENERGY NEEDED TO DO. When you believe I-Can-Do-It, the _how to do it_ develops itself.
Procedure one, then, in your individual of thinking yourself to success, must be to vaccinate yourself against the excusitis, the disease of failures.
I wanted to develop that super-human mind reading skills so that I could read people like an open book. With the only motive to see if they are approachable, open & interesting to communicate and bond to.
I wanna talk about different people who were able to overcome mediocrity and shallowness of their lives just by BELIEVING IN THEMSELVES. Belief works this way. Belief, the "I CAN" attitude generates the POWER, SKILL AND ENERGY NEEDED TO DO. When you believe I-Can-Do-It, the _how to do it_ develops itself. Top guys in this world approach … Continue reading THE SECRET INGREDIENT OF TOP GUYS
Have you ever wondered how some people are able to achieve massive success, while others flounder? The secret to their success is consistency.
How you choose to respond to those challenges when they arise is reflective of your EMOTIONAL STATE.
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy is amazing small personal development book packed with wisdom and Big Ideas. Read on to find the most valuable content from the book. 1. SUCCESS AND FAILURE ARE THE RESULTS OF THE SMALL CHOICES WE MAKE EVERY DAY The compound effect states that the only real secret of success … Continue reading The Compound Effect
The Law of Attraction is responding to your thought, not to your current reality. When you change the thought, your reality must follow suit. If things are going well for you, then focusing upon what is happening now will cause the well-being to continue, but if there are things happening now that are not pleasing, … Continue reading THE LAW OF ATTRACTION TIP
Love. A chemical reaction that makes us sleepless, feel butterflies in the stomach, and many other weird things happen that are just amazing!! Alright! Let's begin.. 1. Positive attitude We all love to be with people who are positive, optimistic, emotionally stable, at peace and always smiling! No one wants to be with negative depressed … Continue reading How to make people fall in love with you!
The reality is not as obvious and simple as we like to think. Some of the things that we accept as true and take at face value are notoriously wrong. Scientists and philosophers have made every effort to change our common perceptions of it. The 10 examples below will show you what I mean.
Aretè is a greek word which means excellence and virtue. Being the highest expression of yourself every single moment throughout your life will bring you true happiness because the gap between who you currently are and what you are capable of, lies the anxiety/depression/etc.
The power of charm is a very simple, basic and mundane book. I cannot seem to find any advanced insights and knowledge in this book (maybe because I am continuously reading a lot), but this might be very useful for you. In the book, Brian and Ron go around stating a list of simplistic conversational … Continue reading THE POWER OF CHARM: HOW TO WIN ANYONE OVER IN ANY SITUATION BY BRIAN TRACY AND RON ARDEN
A good mother is a wise and intelligent woman. Her foresight for her family is vivid, she's highly intuitive, she is a great decision maker because she knows that every single decision of her's can either make or break a family. She's able to analyses and foresee the effects of her actions and decisions on her family.
You don't have the power to control your thoughts and it is useless to do so. Do mediation when you have the highest mental clarity.
Below are my 16 handpicked lines from many books, I find them fascinating and valuable enough to share'em with you. This is quick and super deep! The unexamined life is not worth living - Socrates
Alright, If I had to summarize the complete YouTube channel of Ralph Smart with contains 1000s of videos, then it would be the below 7 golden chunks
1. They are doing something with passion: I don't know what it is but surely there is something about that person who is crazy over something.. it can be cars, career, hobby, socializing, crafts, arts, cooking, sculpturing, writting, sports, computers, public speaking, teaching, music or any damn thing. When someone is passionate about at least … Continue reading 5 SIGNS OF A CONFIDENT PERSON
Trust yourself first before you can trust someone else. Stop letting other people give you a self evaluation.
These formulas may seem very simplistic but let me tell you there true meaning is 100℅ different than what you think! So don't forget to get the right perception of these formulas!
You don't want it BAD ENOUGH. (No arguments, if you did want it badly enough, then, today you would have achieved it)
You should not dwell on sundry good or bad actions once they have been performed.
Your actions generates feelings. If you act slobbish you will feel like a slob. If you act energetic you will feel energetic. You have to develop the skill of choosing your actions consciously and feeling a certain way.
It doesn't matter what you show to the world (to some extent) but what truely matters is how you feel inside, your authenticity.
Be so good they cannot ignore you! if you don't have a strong reason to get better at something you won't be motivated to be persistent and follow through the next 4 steps. This is your fuel to get you to strive for improvement.
A completely life altering state of mind, more than a "crush", very intense feelings of affection towards somebody else, when these feelings are not reciprocated it can destroy one's life. It is an involuntary state of mind which seems to result from a romantic attraction to another person, combined with overwhelming, obsessive need to have one's feelings reciprocated.
Love connection is all about giving a 100% from both the sides into the relationship.