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Hey my name is Aman V. Varma My vision is to inspire 100 million people to become the greatest version of themselves through my "Life Optimization Academy" I am a visionary, psychologist, speaker, youtuber and writer currently living in India. All I do everyday is Read, Research, Experiment and Share wisdom that can help me … Continue reading Start Here – About Me | Vision & Mission

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Is over thinking killing you? Solution is Cognitive Bandwidth

Have you ever suffered from uncontrollable over-thinking? Have you ever burned yourself with stress that was caused by simply obsessing over a thought? Would your life be much more fun if you could spend your thinking energy and time on constructive introspection instead of obsessing over negative thoughts? Do you know a concrete law to help yourself … Continue reading Is over thinking killing you? Solution is Cognitive Bandwidth

Subtle Addictions & Guilt

Everyday we progress through life facing various uncertainties. Due to this uncertainties and we not being GOD, we make mistakes. These mistakes build subconscious addictions and guilt in us. As we have many distractions all the time and very less mindfulness these subtle guilts & addictions go unattended. Later they have negative *compounded* effect on the quality of our life. These under the radar, unnoticed guilt, addictions and negativity is something that we need to pay attention to. Here is a small article that discusses this topic in detail. https://successweapon.wordpress.com/2017/08/26/subtle-addictions-guilt/ And get listed on *Life Optimisation Digest* Membership to receive such articles in your mailbox directly Aman V. Varma Psychologist

3 simple habits to always stay healthy

I ignored the fact that our body is also mind. I realized that without a healthy body the mind cannot be healthy. And when I look at all the 20 things that are making me feel like shit, I've noticed that their roots somehow point towards the physical body & health. Now I know that the health of the body can be the greatest barrier in developing a super conscious mind & intellect.

Research: How to deal with nervousness

Alison Wood Brooks is a researcher at Harvard Business School. She studies the most effective strategy for dealing with acute stress.
First, a little test: Imagine that you need to give a big presentation in front of a bunch of people. Your heart’s been pounding for days at the mere thought of this talk. Palms are sweaty. All that. What should you tell yourself? Should you try to calm down or should you try to feel excited?

Emotional vs Rational Thinking | Advises from my mentors

what to choose over which, then always go for what seems right with rational or logical thinking. I found this advice in the book Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, which was out of my consciousness until now. You see, the things I already know but had forgotten came up in my dream.
So why do you choose which is right based on rational thinking and not emotional thinking (feelings) ?

Love Bombing – Manipulation Weapon

Love is good. But can it be evil? I bet ya, it can be. What if people can take you for granted by manipulating you with the universe's most wonderful emotion - love? If love is used for bonding & creating, it can be used for destruction and self service as well. Love can make … Continue reading Love Bombing – Manipulation Weapon

Communication Mistakes to Avoid

This is more common than we think when seen in our daily lives. People ask something and we respond something else which leaves the communication highly ineffective. And if both the people communicating don't have good Emotional Intelligence, it is not very astonishing to find them in continuous arguments and disregarding.

Do you really have problems? your mind is fooling you!

Your mind is designed to "solve problems" That is it. 24x7x365 your mind is scanning the environment to find problems that can be solved, it just cannot help it.  This nature of a our mind has generated unbelievable things like phone, internet, houses, roads, clothes, books, systems, laws, language, etc. Everything around you is a … Continue reading Do you really have problems? your mind is fooling you!

How your mind tricks you into problems

This nature of a our mind has generated unbelievable things like phone, internet, houses, roads, clothes, books, systems, laws, language, etc. Everything around you is a solution to a problem. It will think that your relationships aren't up to the mark, it will think that you ain't worth enough and all sorts of emotional conflicts (problems) will come up just because you cannot sit idle, your brain has to come up with a problem so that it can solve it. That's a natural function of our brain. So, if there is an inward problem in your life, simply ask yourself if your mind has created it or is it something really present externally. There is nothing wrong with you most of the time, you stay in your head and create massive problems for yourself because you can't find problems outside in the world to solve!

Are you satisfied with the life you’re living?

Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you're living? If yes, you'll die soon because you won't do anything to push yourself & grow. When you don't grow guess what happens? You die! SO EXPAND YOUR VISION & KEEP MAKING YOURSELF AND THE DIFFERENT AREAS OF YOUR LIFE BETTER. AIM TO GET HEALTHIER/ EARN MORE MONEY/ IMPROVE ROMANCE/ SOCIALIZE BETTER.. I hope you get it... (the motivation!)

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Get your articles published to WordPress + Blogger + VIP eMail list of thousands of people.. All for free with your personal links added! Need somewhere other than your blog/website where you can get your articles and stories published and delivered to the front of people’s doorstep someday? Well, you’re all welcome to get them published in ours, and we can get them out in front of our large audience for you! In addition to the WordPress blog, your articles are circulated to thousands of people on the VIP MEMBERS LIST, directly in their inbox! As long as you know what you love to talk about, and you’re passionate about sharing it with others, then you’re always welcome to join our Life Optimization Digest!

How to make people believe in you?

What you will learn: Make people believe in whatever you want them to believe in about you or the worldHow your mind is made to believe in fallacyHow your relationships are ruined by gossipsHow you can make people believe in something which is not true (Do not use this, Just understand it so that you cannot be fooled)You can use this effect to reprogram your mind into whatever you want it to be likeWhat makes a lier "great"And much more.. Watch the video here in as little as 3:03 minutes!  

How to never get frustrated again?

A few years ago, When I was 16-17 years of age, I got habitual to getting frustrated. I went through a ton of drama, miseries and emotional breakdowns. That time all I had wanted was a shoulder to lean on, and that was my "expectation mindset" that I slapped on the face of every human being I came in contact with.  I was expecting "certain feelings" from OTHERS to feel good about myself. 

How to use Classical Conditioning to become attractive

You want people to associate you (your presence) with positive emotions only. That means, never deliver bad news (bribe someone else to deliver it but don't do it by yourself). Never stick around with people when they are experiencing negative emotions. Never, stay away from them. Your presence in a negative situation will be associated as you being the one who brings the bad situations. Just like the bell.

Marcus Aurelius: A Brief Summary of The Meditations

In Book I Aurelius thanks those to whom he is indebted. He thanks his grandfather for teaching him to be candid, modest, and even-tempered; his father for teaching him to be humble, calm, and frugal; his mother for teaching him to be generous and non-materialistic; and his teachers who taught him the value of hard work, self-discipline, equanimity, rationality, humor, and tolerance. From his teachers he also learned to love practical philosophy, instead of metaphysics, logic and the vanity of the Sophists. He also thanks his wife for being affectionate.

1 min video Fundamental attribution error

We are most likely to attribute a certain behavior of others as their internal personality trait (mostly negative) and often underestimate the influence that external factors, such as situational influences, have on another person's behavior. And when the finger is pointing at us, we attribute the same behavior at the external event unconsciously for the sole purpose of protecting our self esteem. This is the fundamental error that we make when trying to ascribe a meaning to someone's behavior or a cause of an event.

Realization: Growth Cycle

I have realised that when the time's destined, people will come into your life & when the time's over, people leave. The person who loves you today may not love you 3 months from now, because the time's over. Everything will come, stay and leave when it's time. Everything comes, stays and leaves to teach us something, to make us grow.

Advice from a stoic seneca

It is man's duty to live in conformity with the divine will, and this means, firstly, bringing his life into line with 'nature's laws', and secondly, resigning himself completely and uncomplainingly to whatever fate may send him. Only by living thus, and not setting too high a value on things which can at any moment be taken away from him, can he discover that true, unshakeable peace and contentment to which ambition, luxury and above all avarice are among the greatest obstacles. ​ - Seneca​

Stupid relationship myth

If your "better-half".. Oops! Let me correct.. The word 'better-half' is stupidity, the person who coined this word, Mr. Horace a roman poet must be a complete fantasy idiot & should be given a 100 & half slashes for such a terrible mistake 😜 - he didn't understand the song of love birds, he must be choked … Continue reading Stupid relationship myth

Hate and love the same person?

Hate & love the same person? Confused a little? Disturbed a little? Mixed feelings for the same person? Not anymore. I've struggled with this, finally cracked this psycho-emotional mingle. Let me tell you if you think you hate & love the same person, then that is not true. It's not the case. The fact is that … Continue reading Hate and love the same person?

As a man thinkeththinketh

As a man thinketh Select quotes: "They who have no central purpose in their life fall an easy prey to petty worries, fears, troubles, and self-pityings...which lead to failure, unhappiness, and loss, for weakness cannot persist in the power-evolving universe." "To put away aimlessness and weakness and to begin to think with purpose is to … Continue reading As a man thinkeththinketh

Effect of Thought on Circumstances

The outer conditions of a person's life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state. This does not mean that a man's circumstances at any giving time are an indication of his entire character, but that those circumstances are so intimately connected with some vital thought-element within himself that, for the time being, they are indispensable to his development.

It pays to think big

How big we think determines the size of our accomplishments. The greates human weakness is self-deprecation. Big thinkers are specialists in creating positive, forward-looking, optimistic pictures in thier own minds and in the minds of others. To think big we must use words and phrases that produce big, positive mental images because we don't think … Continue reading It pays to think big

Motivation = Expectancy times Value divided by Impulsivity times Delay.

Piers Steele is a leading research scientist. After analyzing hundreds of studies on motivation, he came up with a little equation to capture the essence of motivation. It’s a little abstract on first blush but worth internalizing and using as one of our tools. I recommend keeping this ready at hand and using it often … Continue reading Motivation = Expectancy times Value divided by Impulsivity times Delay.

THE SECRET INGREDIENT OF TOP GUYS

I wanna talk about different people who were able to overcome mediocrity and shallowness of their lives just by BELIEVING IN THEMSELVES. Belief works this way. Belief, the "I CAN" attitude generates the POWER, SKILL AND ENERGY NEEDED TO DO. When you believe I-Can-Do-It, the _how to do it_ develops itself. Top guys in this world approach … Continue reading THE SECRET INGREDIENT OF TOP GUYS

How to make people fall in love with you!

Love. A chemical reaction that makes us sleepless, feel butterflies in the stomach, and many other weird things happen that are just amazing!!  Alright! Let's begin.. 1. Positive attitude We all love to be with people who are positive, optimistic, emotionally stable, at peace and always smiling! No one wants to be with negative depressed … Continue reading How to make people fall in love with you!

10 PRINCIPLES OF HAPPINESS: THINK ARETÉ

Aretè is a greek word which means excellence and virtue. Being the highest expression of yourself every single moment throughout your life will bring you true happiness because the gap between who you currently are and what you are capable of, lies the anxiety/depression/etc.

THE POWER OF CHARM: HOW TO WIN ANYONE OVER IN ANY SITUATION BY BRIAN TRACY AND RON ARDEN

The power of charm is a very simple, basic and mundane book. I cannot seem to find any advanced insights and knowledge in this book (maybe because I am continuously reading a lot), but this might be very useful for you. In the book,  Brian and Ron go around stating a list of simplistic conversational … Continue reading THE POWER OF CHARM: HOW TO WIN ANYONE OVER IN ANY SITUATION BY BRIAN TRACY AND RON ARDEN

6 Qualities of a forby Mother

A good mother is a wise and intelligent woman. Her foresight for her family is vivid, she's highly intuitive, she is a great decision maker because she knows that every single decision of her's can either make or break a family. She's able to analyses and foresee the effects of her actions and decisions on her family.

5 SIGNS OF A CONFIDENT PERSON

1. They are doing something with passion: I don't know what it is but surely there is something about that person who is crazy over something.. it can be cars, career, hobby, socializing, crafts, arts, cooking, sculpturing, writting, sports, computers, public speaking, teaching, music or any damn thing. When someone is passionate  about at least … Continue reading 5 SIGNS OF A CONFIDENT PERSON